Will He Cheat AgainHe cheated — What now?
When I got married 5 years ago, I was so in love with my husband that I neglected to notice the signs of his infidelity. Since he is a very handsome man, I was just happy that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me when he has so many options. What I didn’t know, however, is that he was keeping his options open and cheating on me behind my back. When I look back at our marriage, I cannot believe how naive I was — all the business trips and late night conferences — it all seems so ridiculous to me now. But back then, I guess I just didn’t want to deal with the truth. Even when I had all the facts laid out in front of me, I had trouble accepting that he cheated on me for so long. I couldn’t help but think that my life was over because he cheated, but after a couple therapy sessions what cocktails with friends, I was able to deal with the fact that he cheated, and I file for divorce.
He cheated once, will he cheat again?
Had I thought about forgiving my husband and remaining married to him? Of course I had. But the more I started to dig, the more women I found and I knew that he could not be trusted. Deep down, I knew that if I forgave him it would only be a matter of time before he cheated again. You see, it wasn’t a matter of would he cheat again, but when would he cheat again? This thought is what helped me make my decision and leave him once and for all.
Forgetting about an affair: How many times did he actually cheat?
To be honest, I was a little afraid to know just how many times he had cheated on me but I felt as though I needed to know if I ever wanted to get over him. When I asked him about it, he looked puzzled and admitted that he did not know the exact number because it had been an ongoing occurrence for the past 4 years. Forgetting about an affair would have been one thing, but being cheated on so viciously ruled out getting back together completely.
Telling him how you really feel and how it will help
Once all my bags were packed, I started loading my car for my drive to Charlotte, where I had bought a condo. But before I left I wanted to tell him how I felt so that I could get it all off my chest. Telling him how much he hurt me and how I was feeling really helped me to get over himand once I had told him everything, I felt much lighter.
Is he trying to be a better person for you?
When an affair occurs in a relationship, it isn’t uncommon for the confessing spouse to be forgiven, but this usually only happens when the cheater is trying to be a better person. If you want some advice on whether or not to forgive him for having an affair, all I can tell you is that as long as he is trying to become the best version of himself, he deserves a second chance. But if you profusely doubt that he will ever change, don’t waste your time — you’ve already wasted enough of it.