Forgiving A Cheater: Will She Cheat Again?

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Forgetting about an affair: Can it really be done?

I’ve been married to my wife for over twenty years and we’ve never been happier. Were there times when I contemplated divorce? Sure there were. But at the end of the day our love was strong enough to battle whatever came our way. About ten years ago, my wife came clean to me about having had an affair. At first, I was so shocked that I couldn’t speak but when I started thinking about it everything began to make sense. I had always thought it to be strange that she was working late and being dodgy with phone calls when working in Wellington, but since I trusted her I let things slide. Forgetting about an affair isn’t easy, but it is necessary when you don’t want to get a divorce. My wife had asked me if I was thinking about forgetting about the affair and starting fresh, and although some part of me was, I told her I needed time to think. After a couple drinks, I came to the conclusion that I loved her and wanted to remain married.

Do you think she will cheat again?

The scariest part about forgetting about an affair and continuing your relationship is having trust in your partner. I didn’t think that she would cheat on me again since she had stopped having her affair because she felt guilty and despicable, but I couldn’t be sure of it. My wife made sure that she never gave me reason to think that she was cheating again, but I couldn’t help but have had developed a slight paranoia. If you want to know more about dealing with paranoia after cheating, read our guide on the subject.

Moving on from cheating: The choice is yours

Moving on from cheating is completely up to you, you can either ask for a divorce or work on your marriage if you’re still in love. Sure, moving on isn’t that easy but it can actually be very fun and exciting, and soon enough you can begin to date again and enjoy the simple things in life. In my case, the idea of dating new people and being alone for a while repulsed me. But I know many people who have moved on from cheating and found themselves in a happier state of mind.

Forgetting about a cheater: There are other fish in the sea

There are many different types of cheaters, and it is important to know which one you’re dealing with before committing to working on your relationship. Forgetting about a cheater and moving on is necessary when they don’t exude remorse. If your spouse repeatedly cheats on you, has people in your bed, talks badly about you, and hits on people in front of you — they have got to go.

Can you forgive her without having trust issues?

Developing trust issues after becoming aware of her affair was inevitable, but eventually when our relationship began to get stronger, our trust reformed. I don’t think it is possible to forgive your partner for cheating without having some type of trust issues. In fact, even if you don’t forgive your partner and get a divorce, trust issues will follow you into your next relationship. The best thing to do is to work on yourself and your relationship, and eventually you will start trusting her again.

How to get divorced after being cheated on

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Caught them Cheating — the Love is Gone

In Kingston-upon-Hull, many possible things can happen. One of these things, of course, is infidelity. If you’re reading this, you’re probably the victim of cheating in a relationship. You trusted and loved your partner, and they betrayed you despite the loyalty you’ve established. That’s a truly tough spot to be in. Trust me, I know. I recently divorced my own husband for cheating on me. He actually did it with the hot young secretary at his work. I saw her smiling face looking over at me during the Christmas party last year, and I never liked her one bit. Then, one day, I decided to surprise him with a home-cooked meal when he was working late at the office. What did I find? They were actually having sex with each other in his car, of all places! Needless to say, I instantly called up my lawyer and filed for divorce. I never looked back since. Good riddance! If you’re in the same position that I was in, then you need to take the proper steps to divorce your soon-to-be ex partner, and never look back again.

Divorce After Infidelity — Time to Talk

When it comes to divorce after infidelity, there is a lot of talking that needs to happen. You can either talk about it with your partner, with your lawyer, or both. Personally, I chose to just walk away from my partner and have all communication done through my lawyer. It was not hard for me to do at all, because all the love I had for him simply drained away after I caught him in his car with his secretary.

Divorce After Cheating — Get the Right Lawyer

In cases of divorce after cheating, it’s important to get the right lawyer. A good legal representative will actually take care of everything for you, and all you’ll have to do is show up in court once or twice to eae the proceedings along. I’ve had friends who were on a tighter budget and opted for lawyers who were not very good at their jobs. Needless to say that those were not the smoothest divorce proceedings in the world.

Divorce After Affair — A Long-Drawn Process

Divorce after an affair is a long-drawn process. Even if you do get the right lawyer who will take care of all the work for you, you’ll still need to wait a while before getting that final certificate of divorce. It’s worth it, though, so just be patient and it will all be over eventually.

Cheating and Divorce — Two Peas in a Pod

I’m no expert, but the few studies I’ve looked at have shown that most cases of infidelity in a marriage lead to divorce. This was not always the case, as people used to be more open to the fact that their partners would be unfaithful. Today, however, people think much more progressively, and they realize that they deserve better than to spend their valuable time with a cheater and a liar. Understand the value of your time, and divorce your cheating partner in the quickest and most efficient way possible. It will be hard, it will be long, but it will all be worth it in the end. You can take that as my own personal guarantee of happiness.

Choosing Between Divorce And Forgiveness

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Divorce and cheating: Is it what you really want?

Every couple is different and nowadays it is very common to fall out-of-love with your spouse. Instead of working on our relationships and maintaining our happiness and joy, a lot of married couples expect to be content all of the time, and then falter when they start to feel like life isn’t what they thought it would be. Finding out that your wife or husband has been cheating on you is enough to make you want to hide in a dark room forever, but eventually you need to face the real world and make a decision. Choosing between divorce and forgiveness really isn’t that great of a choice, especially when your partner has been cheating on you for years behind your back, but claims they still love you. When I had to choose whether or not I wanted a divorce, what helped me make my decision was realising I wasn’t happy in my marriage — I had just gotten used to it. Even though I chose to get a divorce, I made sure to forgive my partner so that we could both move on properly.

How to get divorced — The right way

When you first agree to getting a divorce, you silently wish that they had taught you how to get a divorce in high school or college, but since they didn’t, I called a friend who had recently went through the same thing and asked for his advice. He kept telling me that we were so lucky we didn’t have children and that everything would be over soon enough. He gave me his lawyer’s number, I called him up, met him for a coffee in Christchurch, where he taught me how to get divorced the right way.

Cheating and divorce: Are you still in love?

When dealing with a cheating spouse, it is important to know that you usually have two options: forgiveness or divorce — both are hard but will be worth it in the long run. In my case, I was still in love with my partner but couldn’t forgive them to the point where I would want to continue our relationship, so I only forgave them for their actions. Being in love with the person you married is only normal, but when you find out that they’re cheating on you, the love you felt gets tainted.

Forgiveness after cheating: Can it be done?

Forgiveness after cheating can definitely be done, and I know this because my sister’s husband cheated on her over 5 years ago and they are still happily married. I guess it helped that he only cheated once and told her about it immediately after, but still. Forgiveness after cheating isn’t for everyone, especially not if you’re feeling angry and resentful, however, if you’re still in love and both want to work it out, there are no reasons why you shouldn’t be able to. For more information on how to forgive a cheating partner, read our guide on the subject.

Divorce and infidelity: The last straw

I think that most people want to forgive their cheating spouses but are too afraid to get cheated on again. Since being cheated on by the one you love is a pain like no other, thinking about experiencing the same pain again turns a lot of people away from forgiveness. Getting a divorce after infidelity has occurred is sometimes crucial to the development of both parties.

Dating Cougars: Beware Of False Advertising

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Not everything you see online is as advertised, in fact some of the real life experiences are not at all what you were expecting. The world of online dating can be full of scams and secrets, and you never really know who you’re dealing with until you actually meet. Here are some of the horror stories about cougars who weren’t what they appeared to be, and tips on what you can do to protect yourself from false advertising on dating sites:

Posing As A Younger Woman

A guy replied to a Brooklyn Craigslist classified where both people were looking for a hot hookup in person. He chatted with her via text and email a couple of times and they even exchanged a series of naked photos. She was young and hot, with exactly the kind of look and body he was into and he was totally stoked to finally meet her for a night of dirty sex. When he arrived at her apartment though, he was shocked to find a much older woman, naked and jumping him before he had a chance to figure out what was happening. When he confronted her he learned that she had hacked her daughter’s phone to use the pictures she had taken for sexting with her boyfriend, and the mom had been passing them off as her own.

Using An Older Man.

A mature man in the USA was excited to start dating a woman online who his own age, in his area, that was hot and ready for action. They emailed and chatted back and forth for a while before finally meeting to go on a date. When he brought her back to his place she kept asking questions about his college aged kids, which he thought was just a genuine interest in his life. The next day he came home and found her sneaking out of his twenty year old son’s bedroom. She had come back to his place while he was at work to get it on with his son, who she had been after the whole time after stalking his Facebook page and seeing a family photo. It turned out that she was a cougar who would do anything to get laid by a much younger man even if it meant lying to and using his dad.

What You Can Do.

Keep a close tab on who you’re really dealing with online with these tips for finding out the real truth about the women you’re chatting with:

Look for clues in their photos.

Watch out for women who post photos of their bodies only without showing their face, or pictures that are taken in dark lighting or where their silhouette is all that you can see. She might be hiding her real age if you can’t clearly see her face and could a cougar looking to pounce on unsuspecting men.

Study her vocabulary.

Young millennials have a way of talking that comes through even online. Look for slang or expressions that a young woman would never use. Cougars might try to pass themselves off as being younger in order to attract the guys they want, but they have a hard time nailing the right lingo. Look for subtle clues that she’s not as young and hip as she’s pretending to be.

Meet somewhere public.

If you’re not sure of who you’re talking to online then arrange to meet in a public area first. Even if you’re planning a booty call that’s strictly about sex, suggest meeting for a drink first. You’ll see who you’re really dealing with without ending up alone in their house and totally caught off guard. Stick to a public spot for your initial meeting and then take it back to her place if she’s legit with who she said she was.

Trust your gut.

Sometimes a woman can seem a bit weird or off when you’re chatting online but you just brush it aside or ignore it, assuming that it’s just hard to communicate without being face to face. The truth is, guys should trust their instincts when it comes to online dating and pay attention when something doesn’t feel right. Guys aren’t as tapped into their intuition the way women are but they should learn to trust their gut instincts when it comes to the women they agree to hook up with. If you’re getting a weird vibe from someone it’s probably a sign that there’s something off about her, whether she’s a cougar pretending to be younger or a woman who’s just a little bit crazy in general.

Be open minded.

If you find yourself tricked by a cougar it might actually turn out to be a good thing. You might have been fooled about who she was, and her approach may have been shady, but if she’s hot and you’re turned on you might just throw caution to the wind and hook up anyway. You never know where great sex is going to be found, and you might get lucky and end up having a hot night with a sexy older woman.